What is love? Love can be anything some will say. Others may say its anything good in your life. I notice the one sure answer to that question is there is no sure answer. I know the answer for me. To love for me, is to love unconditionally. That's what I do. I love unconditionally. I have a story of that.
Its my freshman year of high school. I was not popular but I had my friends and classmates I was cool with. I met this guy through one of my best friends. They went to middle school together. He had the biggest crush on my my best friend, and I had the biggest crush on him. Due to that, I never told a soul. My best friend knew with out me saying a word, and she tell me all the time to go for it, but I never did. As the years went on the guy became my best friend. We was your topical best friends, well at least to me. One day senior year he told me he had a girlfriend. I had a boyfriend, but I was so hurt that he had a girlfriend that I didn't talk to him for 2 months. How I did that when we went to the same high school, I do not know, but I did it. I start to text his girlfriend from his phone a few times and one day he let me talk to her on the phone. I never forget that moment as long as I live. I told her that I loved him and few other things. I SAID THIS IN THE MIDDLE OF THE HALLWAY WITH OUR CLASSMATES LISTENING ALONG WITH HIM. I couldn't believe I said that. I been friends with him for many years now, and I still love him. Even thou we never dated or be came a couple, I still love him as a wife loves her husband. I finally told him one day over the phone and he said he never knew I felt that way(I don't buy that at all). We still friends and my love still grows. What can I say? I'm the type of person once I love you that's it unless you betray me unlike no other. We both date and meet new people, like we should since we both single, but I just cant stop loving him. I play my role as best friend never letting the two cross, but no matter what I do I can stop the love. Who knows what the future holds, he may love back, he maybe my soulmate, or one day I just stop loving him. Who knows but after 10 years of loving someone I don't think it happen over night. Tell me, who was your first love and do you still love him/her?
First Love,
ReplyDeleteMy Dearest, this is a nice article. it is not unconditional love. As soon as you say, unless he betray me, then you have applied a condition. IT IS OKAY. At 45 I stopped saying I love unconditional. Our parents and children may be as close as most of us get to unconditional. Unconditional Love is Godly Love. I can't love as God love because if I am betrayed, as you suggested, I now know me well enough to know that I begin closing my heart to further hurt. This is not a Slam against your article-Again, Good Article. I enjoyed reading it. Try listening to my story. The Green Card Game: I Married an African Physician http://youtu.be/xUFMyq1fYHg I am going to post your blog and write a follow up titled Another Love (not my ex husband) a different spin on love. Keep up the Good Work
First Love,
ReplyDeleteI was 11 and he was 13 we was friends since i was 10 and now I'm 21 and I still talk to him we have been in a relationship once before for only 6 months and then for 7 years and then we stop talking for a year. We met up again and started talking. I really really missed him and i try to make it seem that I didn't to see how he was going to act.One day when we was on the phone he told me that he loves me and that he don't know what he would do if he loses me again (meaning that I'm gone and he can get in touch with me at all). but we are not together and yes i really do and still love him!!