Saturday, December 7, 2013

What to do with a "pushy" lover?

Hello Everyone!



  I normally do not like to talk about personal business online rather it's mine or someone else.  This post was a request from a friend of mine that wanted all of you to help him with a problem. This is his problem: He is in a strictly sexual relationship with someone, who is more than half his age, older than him. They known each other for a while and been "together" for 6 months. She refuse to accept that they are just "sex buddies" after he had repeatedly told her that he did not have romantic feelings for her and that it was "just sex" for him. She has even confess that she loves him. He told her that he do not feel the same for her, but she not having it, and keeps on referring to him as her boyfriend after he have told her he is not her boyfriend. He have stop her from cooking for him and going out or anything that can be seen as a date. Because of the large age gap many of you may be saying to yourself.."He doing it for the money" which I can tell you that is not the case. He has a job and a college degree, and has always taking care of his own business.

I told him that he should just leave her alone. If they are not on the same page then it is time to cut the cord. Now, he wants to hear from you my lovely readers. Should he cut ties with her or should he get into a relationship that he is being forced into just to be nice to her?  Leave your advice in the comments below.

Wednesday, December 4, 2013

Un-Deathly Love

 
I am a hopeless romantic. Some one once asked me what kind of relationship am I looking for. I did not know how to describe in words my "perfect" relationship. Then it hit me, I only said "I want to be in love like Morticia and Gomez Addams". They looked at me with confusion in their eyes. It's true, I want my relationship to be like their relationship. No matter if it looks wrong to others it feels right to us. 
 
The love that the Addams family couple has for each other is the most pure you will ever see in Hollywood. They may not be a real couple, but they are the go to for all standards of relationships and marriages. I love how after so many years they still love and lust after each other like it's the first time seeing each other. 

I could go on and on about this couple, but I know I will at a later date,yet until then my friends go and watch the movies and youtube the television show. I see you later darlings. 



Tuesday, December 3, 2013

What is a "Friend" to you?

What are friends to you? No, I'm not talking about these friends, but


according to the Merriam-Webster dictionary the word means:
a :  one attached to another by affection or esteem
b :  acquaintance
                                                                                             a :  one that is not hostile
                                                                                b :  one that is of the same nation, party, or group
                                                                                  :  one that favors or promotes something (as a charity)
                                                   :  a favored companion

Do you agree with this definition? I do in part. Yes, your friends are attach to you by affection. If something happen to your friend or even when they get sick, you always there to help them feel better. I don't agree so much with the esteem part because I do not understand what they mean by "esteem" in this content. 

By this definition, your mate can be called a "friend". This question came to my mind as I was hanging out with a long time best friend of mine. I always wonder how do we pick are friends. Is it true that our friends represent a part of us that we are not allowed to show do to our position in society? I also wonder what make you no longer want to be friends with someone. There are many different question that can come about with this definition, but I know for a fact in my case that my friends are my family, clear-mind in a storm, and shoulder to cry on. I could go on and on about this topic, but I want to hear from you.
In the comments tell me what the word "friend" mean to you.

Sunday, December 1, 2013

World Aids Days



Today is the world Aids Day! I want all of you that are sexually active to go get tested. Not just on the December 1st, but every 3 months. Its important that everyone knows their status no matter what "lifestyle" you live you need to know your status.

More than 1.1 million people in the United States are living with HIV infection, and almost 1 in 5 (18.1%) are unaware of their infection. Gay, bisexual, and other men who have sex with men, particularly young black/African American, are most seriously affected by HIV. By race, blacks/African Americans face the most severe burden of HIV. 
HIV Diagnoses (new diagnoses, regardless of when infection occurred): In 2011, an estimated 49,273 people were diagnosed with HIV infection in the United States. In that same year, an estimated 32,052 people were diagnosed with AIDS. Since the epidemic began, an estimated 1,155,792 people in the United States have been diagnosed with AIDS.
Gay, bisexual, and other men who have sex with men of all races and ethnicities remain the population most profoundly affected by HIV. In 2010, the estimated number of new HIV infections among was 29,800, a significant 12% increase from the 26,700 new infections among in 2008. Although  represent about 4% of the male population in the United States, in 2010, accounted for 78% of new HIV infections among males and 63% of all new infections. Accounted for 52% of all people living with HIV infection in 2009, the most recent year these data are available.
In 2010, white continued to account for the largest number of new HIV infections (11,200), by transmission category, followed closely by black (10,600). The estimated number of new HIV infections was greatest among in the youngest age group. In 2010, the greatest number of new HIV infections (4,800) among occurred in young black/African American aged 13–24. Young black accounted for 45% of new HIV infections among black and 55% of new HIV infections among young overall. Since the epidemic began, an estimated 302,148 with an AIDS diagnosis have died, including an estimated 5,909 in 2010.
Heterosexuals and Injection Drug Users also continue to be affected by HIV. Heterosexuals accounted for 25% of estimated new HIV infections in 2010 and 27% of people living with HIV infection in 2009. Since the epidemic began, almost 85,000 persons with an AIDS diagnosis, infected through heterosexual sex, have died, included an estimated 4,003 in 2010. New HIV infections among women are primarily attributed to heterosexual contact (84% in 2010) or injection drug use (16% in 2010). Women accounted for 20% of estimated new HIV infections in 2010 and 24% of those living with HIV infection in 2009. The 9,500 new infections among women in 2010 reflect a significant 21% decrease from the 12,000 new infections that occurred among this group in 2008. Injection drug users represented 8% of new HIV infections in 2010 and 16% of those living with HIV in 2009. Since the epidemic began, nearly 182,000 injection drug users with an AIDS diagnosis have died, including an estimated 4,218 in 2010. 

Now, its your turn to do research and get tested for your self, This time I need you to go get tested. Stay safe and wear a condom every time.

Wednesday, November 27, 2013

Thankful!!!

It's that time of the year again! The cold crisp of the air, and the beautiful colored leaves on the ground. The smell of home cooked food full up the house. This time of the year, we all set and share what we are thankful for.

I am thankful for a lot of the same things as you. I'm thankful for my family, friends, a good job, and a warm home to come to everyday. I realize a lot of us even me don't really understand how much we have to be thankful for. I am thankful to have able to share my thoughts with all of you. I am thankful for Glipho for reaching out to me to post some one of my blog post on their site. Don't worry I still post my blog here first. To all my faithful readers I ask that you down in the comments tell me what you are thankful for this year.

Tuesday, November 26, 2013

New Age Bullying




On this topic, I have mix emotions, so I'm keep it short. The educated woman in me is all for ending all types of bullying, but the bullied little girl in me is screaming "fuck that!!! I was bullied and every adult in my life knew, but they counter act the bullying by raising me and gave me encouragements and self esteem."

I know bullying is wrong. In all honesty, it needs to end like yesterday. To every child/teen who are being bullied or have been bullied, don't let any one's negative words hurt you. Remember it's not your fault, the problem do not live in you it lives in the other person. Trust me, just follow your dreams and keep doing what puts a smile on your face, and when you are on the top you see how a rough sand paper can only polish a diamond, but it can not hurt it. I have this question. What are you going to do to the parents of the bully? I see on the news the children that were doing the bullying being put in jail, but think where did they learn that? Look at the parents of the bully. They had to see the signs that their child had a bullying ways. I learn through some of my bullies that they learned it from their parents, older siblings, and other relatives. Now, I ask this, don't you believe that the parents of the bullies should be punished too?

Monday, November 25, 2013

Ashley Stewart: My favorite store



I am a big fan of Ashley Stewart! I have been wearing their clothes since I was a freshman in high school. I would say 95% of my closet is Ashley Stewart clothing. Out of all the stores that cater to the plus size woman, Ashley Stewart is the only store that make me feel like I can be a part of the new fashion. Most stores keep their clothes blend, and you don't feel like you would stand out in a crowd in them. Ashley Stewart on the other hand, make you feeling you are walking down a catwalk everyday. I always get compliment on my outfits that I get from this store more than anything else I have in my closet. I shop at the store located in Redford Michigan. That is my main Ashley Stewart store I shop at, unless they out of my size then I go to the Southfield store. I known the mangers there since I was a freshman in high school. They always there to help me and mom pick out the best outfits. They are also have helpful along with the rest of the staff. The store is always clean and playing the best music.  I remember one of the mangers (her name is Shaun) telling me "you been wearing our clothes for years they should make you this region spokes model" I love shopping there.

Me in one of the most popular summer outfits from Ashley Stewart i own(the whole outfit is from Ashley Stewart minus the shoes and necklace)
I admit that the clothes can me expensive specially in these hard times we all are in, but now they have more sells than ever. Rather if they are in stores, online, or both in stores and online. If you like their facebook page https://www.facebook.com/byAshleyStewart you get all types of coupons and promotions, and if you join their mailing list you get 15% off your full purchase on http://www.ashleystewart.com/ .

I love this store and their clothes. I could go on and on about this store but why? You go online and find the closest Ashley Stewart store and go shopping, You thank me later.