Spirit Day

Today is Spirit Day. This is a day to educate people on the horror of bullying, and teach young people to stand up to bullying. Today is the day to teach children to stand up to bullying, but not through fighting, yet by speaking up to up against the bully and tell an adult. It’s important for us as adults to teach children not to bully others because their different, and to tell an adult there is an act of bullying taken place.

I have my own personal stories of bullying. I experience bullying from classmates all the way to my own family members. It was a hard time for me and I still have my own struggles with it even today. I had friends who would stand up for me, and even teachers who took a stand against. My bullying story started in the fourth grade. It was valentine day and I gave a boy I had a crush on a card. He came over to me, and he picked up a red dictionary and began to hit me over and over again. Ever since then I would be scared to tell a guy I liked or crush on him. I even wore black every year until recently. I remember the school faculty tries to blame me for the fight. My parents took me out of the school.

Bullying is a topic I take seriously. To all you out there that are going through bullying, it will get better, trust me! I know it’s hard but it will get better. If you being bullied, tell an adult you can trust. If you see someone being bullied, take a stand! Tell an adult immediately and tell the bully it’s not cool to bully someone. We can end all the acts of teen suicides and youth trying to harm themselves. Don't let NO ONE convince you to end your life or hurt yourself. Keep your head up! I LOVE YOU ALL!

WHAT GROUP DO YOU BELONG TO??

Am I the only one who wonders why we are friends with certain people and not others? I notice today that the world is set up like the fictional high schools in the 90's movies I use to watch. Even in college, jocks sit and hang out with jocks and the list goes on. Myself, I do not fit any one special group. I like to do my own thing. I even notice teachers would treat you different if you fit in a certain group or not. I always find this to funny.  I Never knew that belonging to certain groups and stereotypes was a big deal in this country or world.

I am not the "normal" girl. I like wrestling and cartoons. I can also make a sailor blush with the way I talk. I see how I don't get the same respect from my male counterparts as my more "feminine" friends. I think that is crazy. Just because I don't wear tight clothes, high heels, go clubbing every night, and twerk on every guy I see don't make me any less than a woman. Treat us all the same!!!!!!!!! I learn to do things on my own because over the years guys showed me that because I am the " home girl" or their buddy I don't get the helping hand from them. I learn to open my own doors, cut my own grass, figure out whats wrong with my car, and to protect myself when I walk late at night.

Fellas, if you see a woman is walking behind you, no matter how she is dress or looks hold the door for her. Let her feel like a woman for just a mere second, since the rest of the world wont let her have that respect. I have male friend that hates to see me open a door. Like I told him, no man ever do it for me so I just learn to do it for myself. This ties to my post from yesterday, its all about self worth. I guess you can I lost a lot of it over the years, and I am finally gaining it back.

All and All today was a good day. Just remember if you having a bad day, change your thoughts and your day will change. In other words, think of good things and good things will come to you. REACH FOR THE SKY THEN ONCE YOU REACH IT...MOVE ON TO THE STARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

NATIONAL COMING OUT DAY!!

I know this, I am late posting this, but I had to make sure I was clear in this post. I AM AN ALLY!!! I am also a Christian. With National Coming Out Day just passing on the calendar, it made me think about my gay and lesbian friends who came out to me in the past. The one thing they all had in common was they were afraid I would no longer be their friend, but that was far-removed from the truth. Yes I do have strong religious beliefs, yet I follow one major rule of my faith and that’s “thou shall not judge”. All I care about is if that person, rather boy or girl, is treating you with respect and love other than that I don’t care who you date.  I SUPPORT GAY MARRIAGE!!!! I don’t understand what the problem is. I am working on a degree in Psychology, and I can tell you there is no real proof that a child growing up in a household with Same Sex parents are going to be gay or have terrible psychological issues. If they found someone they want to be with for the rest of their lives, and want to marry them. LET THEM!!!!! The world will not end and society will keep going on.

                There are 3 gay men that are my world. I call them my gay husbands. The nickname came about because they all have qualities I look for in my husband, and if they were straight I would totally date them. They are ranked by who came into my life first. I start backwards first.  Husband #3 I call him white chocolate. He is the newest member of the group. I met him through husband #1 because that’s his boyfriend. He is totally sweet and kind guy. The first time we met was at my birthday party last year. I know we have many more years of memories to come, so stay tune for that. #2 husband is my down for whatever husband. He’s also the only husband that watches Rupaul’s Drag Race with me. We talk about the makeup and dresses and the runway of all the queens. He is also the photographer of this family. He also keeps me up on all the underground artists and music. Now we reach the top dog of the group. Husband #1 is my protective and most professional out of all 3. We met 7 years ago and ever since we been together. All this boyfriends have to meet a standard that I have for him (I got to make sure he is a good man that’s all) and the same goes for my boyfriends have to meet his standards. He had opened my eyes to so much. He helps me with my budget, school, resumes, men/dating/ fashion, and my new project losing weight. He always keeps me on track to reaching my goals just like the other husbands. I don’t know where I would be without him in my life. He spoils me almost like a real husband, and our 7th anniversary is coming up October 17.  Yes, we celebrate an anniversary. I love all my husbands equally. One day I will be at their weddings.  I just wanted to tell all the young or old people out there that are scared to come out to friends/family. It’s OK to be who you are completely. If they truly love you then they will accept you for who you are, don’t for one second think that someone who say they love you truly do because if they are trying to get you to chance who you are, or make you feel ashamed of who you are then they don’t truly love you. I LOVE YOU ALL!!! KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!  Remember YOU, YES YOU, YOU ARE PERFECT and were created by the most high and HE DID NOT MAKE NO MISTAKE WHEN HE CREATED YOU!!!!!!!!!  *kiss* 

                

Standing on the Soap box for Detroit

The last few months, I have made post regarding all that is positive and good in my home state and hometown. I started this blog to get the word out to young people like myself and even to people that are older than me, that the state of Michigan is not for “old people” or “retired auto workers” that there are great things to do in Michigan that people can have fun doing. I also started this blog to show the world that Detroit is not a city full of “thugs, robbers, killers, rapist, etc.” Yes, there is crime here in the city of Detroit, but we are a large city and crime everywhere not just in Detroit, but in your own neighborhoods. Detroit is a city full of history. History in music and national history. Did you know that Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. gave the famous I have a Dream speech first in Detroit? Yes, right here.

                I am very passionate about my hometown. I cannot believe the media treats us (Detroit) as if we are some war torn country. This is the place that built the car you are driving in, yet you swipe us down like flies ruining your picnic. I do not hide the fact that there is crime in my city every day, or there are cold cases that may never get solved, yet that’s all the media, older generation of Detroit citizens see and talk about. How about the youth that’s trying to make the city better, and the people who trying to show the good in the city?  

                All I ask is this simple, unpretentious, and meek demand of you, my readers, followers, friends, and family. Before, you start to point your nose down on the city of Detroit or the state of Michigan as yourself these questions: Is this happening in my city or state? Would I be hurt or insult maybe even offended if this was said about my hometown or state? Are they truly trying to fix their problem?  Before you speak, type or record your transgress insult about Michigan, Detroit, OR our citizens please do remember that for every bad or negative thing you say about us, we can say about you too, yet we are more responsible, stable, considered, adult, and most important we are more established group of people not to point out your defects, failings, imperfections, weaknesses. I would go on and on about this topic But I wait to hear from you my readers and see what you think about this before I continue. Until then my loves, speak positive and live what you say.

The Flower has Blossm

Orchid has a reputation as the club to be among the young and young at heart. And once you enter the door at Orchid you will not have any hesitation about why people congregate there. I have been there only once so far, but my friends have been there many times now, and I must say it's quite an occurrence. This has become Ferndale’s best new spot to party among college crowd and those who just love to party. Orchid is not a new club; it’s been around for a while. And for those of you searching for a party like no other club has offered, the Orchid is where you should be.

Nestled among the stores, showrooms, and bars, The Orchid is located at 141 West 9 Mile Rd. at Woodward in Ferndale, MI. The Orchid is only open on Fridays and Saturdays from 9pm-2am.

The club is not easy to miss. The bright neon lights and the crowd of people outside lets you know you are at the right place. However, the interior will remind visitors of a Vegas party. The music keeps the people moving! The club plays all types of music even 90’s hip hop. The club also has dancer to help keep the party going, and to make sure everyone is having a great time. The decor allows the guest to be taken away by the music and the lights, though flashing lights and music isn’t the only thing bringing folks to The Orchid. The club buzz with excited energy and was comfortably full with seemingly satisfied patrons.

The Orchid offers free entry into the club on Fridays and Saturdays for everyone before 11pm. Yes, everyone 21+ can get into Orchid for free before 11pm. For all the people who like to have a few drinks while they party, Orchid have a special for you. All drinks are only $2 before 11pm on Fridays and Saturdays. I couldn’t believe it the first time I heard it. I went to the club and everything I heard about the club was true. At the door everyone who came into the club before 11pm on Saturday received a Friday Free Pass. The Orchid offers booth/table reservations as well, which you can do by either calling or emailing the club. For booth/table reservations email at orchidbooths@gmail.com or call at 248-506-6586 and find them on Facebook at http://www.facebook.com/orchidferndale

I would love to be self-centered, egotistic, and greedy by keeping The Orchid all to myself and among my closest friends, but this club is too good to stay mysterious for long. There’s no doubt to have a party at The Orchid will quickly become the hottest thing to do on a Friday or Saturday night.

~Jhonzalee