Happy Valentine's Day!!

 Happy Valentine's Day Everybody!!!!!!!!

I know I'm early, but hey it's the thought that count, right? As you can see I changed up the look of my blog just to show you all some love this month. Since I do not have a Valentine this year, I thought I would share with you some Valentine's Day ideas for you and your Valentine.

Make your own Valentine's Day gift. I mean come on who don't like the idea of your lover taking time out to make something specially for you.

Do some dirty dancing. Burn a CD with hot and steamy tunes.  Hint: Pull down your shades before things get too steamy.

Have a picnic indoors. Spread a blanket on the bed with fresh fruit, chocolates, cheese slices, and wine to encourage between-the-sheets action for the night. 

Vamp it up. Buy yourself (or your girl) three new lingerie outfits in totally different styles -- over-the-top, cutesy, and subtly sexy -- and use your shopping spree as an excuse to suggest a before dinner fashion show. 

 Book a hot reservation (at home). While cooking together might be something you do every day, there's no reason it can't be special. The twist: Devise a unique menu that you'll make together every year on Valentine's Day (think: all seafood, or an aphrodisiac theme). Start the tradition now and you'll never have to worry about making last-minute plans in the future.

Get the Zen treatment. Book a couples treatment at a local spa for Valentine's evening. By the time you get home, you’ll be ultra-relaxed for some late-night fun. 

This is just a quick list of a few things you can do with your partner this year. From me to you HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!!! 

HERE'S A SPECIAL KISS FROM ME TO                                                               YOU! *MUAH*

Update on me (Weight loss)

I made a post a little time ago about me losing weight and loving myself a little more. I am writing this post to update you on that plan. I admit I fell off track (hey I'm only human), but I am back on track doing my workouts and eating health as possible.

Here are the videos I found on YouTube that helped me to get up to work out. They made me realize you can turn anything into a work out and that the most simple move and give you the most results. Just like any weight loss or workout plan... PLEASE talk with your doctor before doing any workouts or diet/weight loss plan. I most want to work out but keep my female curves. Leave me a comment down below with it any suggestion.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3gVWVAhCzKI&list=PLL51yzNxM8lDlgC8z2aZWIpq_tza32w3L&index=2

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=i-BZsLpu1FE&list=PLL51yzNxM8lDlgC8z2aZWIpq_tza32w3L&index=4 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UEMD-_MqUzg&list=PLL51yzNxM8lDlgC8z2aZWIpq_tza32w3L&index=6

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ah0VZ33TuCE&list=PLL51yzNxM8lDlgC8z2aZWIpq_tza32w3L&index=13


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Ashley Stewart: My favorite store

I am a big fan of Ashley Stewart! I have been wearing their clothes since I was a freshman in high school. I would say 95% of my closet is Ashley Stewart clothing. Out of all the stores that cater to the plus size woman, Ashley Stewart is the only store that make me feel like I can be a part of the new fashion. Most stores keep their clothes blend, and you don't feel like you would stand out in a crowd in them. Ashley Stewart on the other hand, make you feeling you are walking down a catwalk everyday. I always get compliment on my outfits that I get from this store more than anything else I have in my closet. I shop at the store located in Redford Michigan. That is my main Ashley Stewart store I shop at, unless they out of my size then I go to the Southfield store. I known the mangers there since I was a freshman in high school. They always there to help me and mom pick out the best outfits. They are also have helpful along with the rest of the staff. The store is always clean and playing the best music.  I remember one of the mangers (her name is Shaun) telling me "you been wearing our clothes for years they should make you this region spokes model" I love shopping there.

Me in one of the most popular summer outfits from Ashley Stewart i own(the whole outfit is from Ashley Stewart minus the shoes and necklace)

I admit that the clothes can me expensive specially in these hard times we all are in, but now they have more sells than ever. Rather if they are in stores, online, or both in stores and online. If you like their facebook page https://www.facebook.com/byAshleyStewart you get all types of coupons and promotions, and if you join their mailing list you get 15% off your full purchase on http://www.ashleystewart.com/ .

I love this store and their clothes. I could go on and on about this store but why? You go online and find the closest Ashley Stewart store and go shopping, You thank me later.

Today, the oldest of my little brothers left a comment on one this  "Meme" I post on my facebook. It said:

"Hey sis. Can I give you some advice? You should never make promises you can't keep. Everybody falls. The question is whether or not you get. You may fall, but you better always get back up. Now that is a promise you can keep." 

     I chuckled after I read it because he's right. I re-read what the "Meme" said and I could see how he came to this point.  His comment motivated me to write this post today.

     It's true, we all fall. We all have something in our lives that made us weak or "fall", but no matter how long it takes we always should get up and keep going. There have been many times in my life where I had fell, and double of those times I got back up.

    You should NEVER let something, someone, or even some event stop you from your goals in life. If life gives you a dead end, always look around because there is always a detour sign to help you get to your goal. I know it is hard and easier said than done, but once you see that you met the goal you be so happy that you kept going. The struggle is just that a struggle. Struggles do not last always, but you got to have the strength to over come the struggle, and not let the struggle you been through define who you are and what you do. It's OK for people to see you trip, stumble, and even fall, but it's more important for them to see you get up, dust your self off and keep going. To all my readers, remember you are bigger than what you are going through. You will come through the storm you currently in better and stronger than you was while you was in that storm. keep your head up.

Spirit Day

Today is Spirit Day. This is a day to educate people on the horror of bullying, and teach young people to stand up to bullying. Today is the day to teach children to stand up to bullying, but not through fighting, yet by speaking up to up against the bully and tell an adult. It’s important for us as adults to teach children not to bully others because their different, and to tell an adult there is an act of bullying taken place.

I have my own personal stories of bullying. I experience bullying from classmates all the way to my own family members. It was a hard time for me and I still have my own struggles with it even today. I had friends who would stand up for me, and even teachers who took a stand against. My bullying story started in the fourth grade. It was valentine day and I gave a boy I had a crush on a card. He came over to me, and he picked up a red dictionary and began to hit me over and over again. Ever since then I would be scared to tell a guy I liked or crush on him. I even wore black every year until recently. I remember the school faculty tries to blame me for the fight. My parents took me out of the school.

Bullying is a topic I take seriously. To all you out there that are going through bullying, it will get better, trust me! I know it’s hard but it will get better. If you being bullied, tell an adult you can trust. If you see someone being bullied, take a stand! Tell an adult immediately and tell the bully it’s not cool to bully someone. We can end all the acts of teen suicides and youth trying to harm themselves. Don't let NO ONE convince you to end your life or hurt yourself. Keep your head up! I LOVE YOU ALL!

WHAT GROUP DO YOU BELONG TO??

Am I the only one who wonders why we are friends with certain people and not others? I notice today that the world is set up like the fictional high schools in the 90's movies I use to watch. Even in college, jocks sit and hang out with jocks and the list goes on. Myself, I do not fit any one special group. I like to do my own thing. I even notice teachers would treat you different if you fit in a certain group or not. I always find this to funny.  I Never knew that belonging to certain groups and stereotypes was a big deal in this country or world.

I am not the "normal" girl. I like wrestling and cartoons. I can also make a sailor blush with the way I talk. I see how I don't get the same respect from my male counterparts as my more "feminine" friends. I think that is crazy. Just because I don't wear tight clothes, high heels, go clubbing every night, and twerk on every guy I see don't make me any less than a woman. Treat us all the same!!!!!!!!! I learn to do things on my own because over the years guys showed me that because I am the " home girl" or their buddy I don't get the helping hand from them. I learn to open my own doors, cut my own grass, figure out whats wrong with my car, and to protect myself when I walk late at night.

Fellas, if you see a woman is walking behind you, no matter how she is dress or looks hold the door for her. Let her feel like a woman for just a mere second, since the rest of the world wont let her have that respect. I have male friend that hates to see me open a door. Like I told him, no man ever do it for me so I just learn to do it for myself. This ties to my post from yesterday, its all about self worth. I guess you can I lost a lot of it over the years, and I am finally gaining it back.

All and All today was a good day. Just remember if you having a bad day, change your thoughts and your day will change. In other words, think of good things and good things will come to you. REACH FOR THE SKY THEN ONCE YOU REACH IT...MOVE ON TO THE STARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

SELF LOVE/WEIGHT LOSS *LEAVE A COMMENT *

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The topic of weight and weight loss has been in a heavy rotation in my mind for months now. It really had been a part of my life all my life. For many years, I always was the “fat girl” in my group of friends, and trust me; I played up every stereotype you can think of when it came down to it.  I did everything to show that I was happy, but I wasn’t. Until lately, I always played my weight and size as a joke so no one would feel sorry for me. Then I realize I was the only person feeling sorry for me. I realize I was attracting all the negative things to me by the way I was thinking.

                One day I went to the doctor for my annual checkup, when she asks me if I was thinking of starting a family any time soon. I said no, but it is part of my future plans. That’s when she drops the bomb on me. She told me at the weight I am now; carrying a child would be risky. I even could be on bed rest the whole time. Anyone who knows me know, I want children, and I do whatever it takes to have my children healthy,and being a mother is more important to me than anything. I started on a diet. Now, I’m being honest, it’s not a hard diet if a true diet at all. I walk more now that I am back in school and I do 20-30 squats a day. I can start to see my body changing. My friends are very supportive, but I learned that if you not happy with whom you are as a whole no matter how much weight you lose you still be unhappy.

By typing this post, IF I could help one person see how special they are and how they are worthy of love and happiness then I can say my job is done. There have been times I wanted to “end it all”, or felt unworthy to be loved. The day I realize that if I did all of the things I was thinking then I could not live my dream, and the ones who hurt me had won. I’m sorry, but I cannot go out that way. I’m here to tell ANYONE of you who have those dark thoughts of harming yourself or that you not loved.  I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH!!! If I can make it through the bullying from strangers all the way to my own family members, so can you. Everyone is here for a reason or purpose. DON’T LET ANYONE STEAL YOUR PURPOSE FROM YOU. I have been where you are, and I KNOW the pain and tears you cry, but trust me you are stronger than that. If you need someone to talk to write a letter to yourself and hide it from your sight for a day or two, and when you re-read the letter you wrote you will be amazed how strong you became after you overcame the problem. If you want, you can email me if you just want someone to talk to, or if you can’t talk to anyone around you about it. I just don’t want anyone to go through what I went through.