Role Model Couple #4 Neil Patrick Harris and David Burtka

It's time for couple number #4!!!! I know it may comes to a shock to some of my new readers, but I am a support of Gay Rights. I have express my thoughts on the topic in an earlier post. I feel that Neil Patrick Harris and his Husband David Burtka are a great role model couple not just for the LGBT community but for everyone no matter what. They may be different than the other couples on my list, but they are the same as them too. They are the traditional family that we grew up seeing on TV and in movies the only difference is its two daddies. 

Neil Patrick Harris is an American actor, producer, singer, and director. He is best known for the title role in Doogie Howser, M.D., the womanizing Barney Stinson in How I Met Your Mother, a fictionalized version of himself in the Harold & Kumar series, and the title role in Joss Whedon's musical web series Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog.

Harris was named as one of Time magazine's 100 most influential people in 2010, and was awarded a star on the Hollywood Walk of Fame in September 2011. Harris has also hosted the Tony Awards on Broadway in 2009, 2011, 2012, and 2013.

Harris confirmed that he is gay in November 2006 by saying,

 "I am happy to dispel any rumors or misconceptions and am quite proud to say that I am a very content gay man living my life to the fullest and feel most fortunate to be working with wonderful people in the business I love."

Harris attended the Emmy awards in  2007 with his fiance David Burtka, later confirming the relationship, which he said began in 2004, in an interview on The Ellen DeGeneres Show. 

On August 14, 2010, Harris announced that he and Burtka were expecting twins via a surrogate mother. The  twins Gideon Scott, a boy, and Harper Grace, a girl, were born in 2010.

Following the passage of the Marriage Equality Act in New York on June 24, 2011, Harris and Burtka announced their engagement via Twitter, stating that they had proposed to each other five years earlier but kept the engagement secret until same-sex marriage became legal.

Spirit Day

Today is Spirit Day. This is a day to educate people on the horror of bullying, and teach young people to stand up to bullying. Today is the day to teach children to stand up to bullying, but not through fighting, yet by speaking up to up against the bully and tell an adult. It’s important for us as adults to teach children not to bully others because their different, and to tell an adult there is an act of bullying taken place.

I have my own personal stories of bullying. I experience bullying from classmates all the way to my own family members. It was a hard time for me and I still have my own struggles with it even today. I had friends who would stand up for me, and even teachers who took a stand against. My bullying story started in the fourth grade. It was valentine day and I gave a boy I had a crush on a card. He came over to me, and he picked up a red dictionary and began to hit me over and over again. Ever since then I would be scared to tell a guy I liked or crush on him. I even wore black every year until recently. I remember the school faculty tries to blame me for the fight. My parents took me out of the school.

Bullying is a topic I take seriously. To all you out there that are going through bullying, it will get better, trust me! I know it’s hard but it will get better. If you being bullied, tell an adult you can trust. If you see someone being bullied, take a stand! Tell an adult immediately and tell the bully it’s not cool to bully someone. We can end all the acts of teen suicides and youth trying to harm themselves. Don't let NO ONE convince you to end your life or hurt yourself. Keep your head up! I LOVE YOU ALL!

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The topic of weight and weight loss has been in a heavy rotation in my mind for months now. It really had been a part of my life all my life. For many years, I always was the “fat girl” in my group of friends, and trust me; I played up every stereotype you can think of when it came down to it.  I did everything to show that I was happy, but I wasn’t. Until lately, I always played my weight and size as a joke so no one would feel sorry for me. Then I realize I was the only person feeling sorry for me. I realize I was attracting all the negative things to me by the way I was thinking.

                One day I went to the doctor for my annual checkup, when she asks me if I was thinking of starting a family any time soon. I said no, but it is part of my future plans. That’s when she drops the bomb on me. She told me at the weight I am now; carrying a child would be risky. I even could be on bed rest the whole time. Anyone who knows me know, I want children, and I do whatever it takes to have my children healthy,and being a mother is more important to me than anything. I started on a diet. Now, I’m being honest, it’s not a hard diet if a true diet at all. I walk more now that I am back in school and I do 20-30 squats a day. I can start to see my body changing. My friends are very supportive, but I learned that if you not happy with whom you are as a whole no matter how much weight you lose you still be unhappy.

By typing this post, IF I could help one person see how special they are and how they are worthy of love and happiness then I can say my job is done. There have been times I wanted to “end it all”, or felt unworthy to be loved. The day I realize that if I did all of the things I was thinking then I could not live my dream, and the ones who hurt me had won. I’m sorry, but I cannot go out that way. I’m here to tell ANYONE of you who have those dark thoughts of harming yourself or that you not loved.  I LOVE YOU VERY MUCH!!! If I can make it through the bullying from strangers all the way to my own family members, so can you. Everyone is here for a reason or purpose. DON’T LET ANYONE STEAL YOUR PURPOSE FROM YOU. I have been where you are, and I KNOW the pain and tears you cry, but trust me you are stronger than that. If you need someone to talk to write a letter to yourself and hide it from your sight for a day or two, and when you re-read the letter you wrote you will be amazed how strong you became after you overcame the problem. If you want, you can email me if you just want someone to talk to, or if you can’t talk to anyone around you about it. I just don’t want anyone to go through what I went through. 

NATIONAL COMING OUT DAY!!

I know this, I am late posting this, but I had to make sure I was clear in this post. I AM AN ALLY!!! I am also a Christian. With National Coming Out Day just passing on the calendar, it made me think about my gay and lesbian friends who came out to me in the past. The one thing they all had in common was they were afraid I would no longer be their friend, but that was far-removed from the truth. Yes I do have strong religious beliefs, yet I follow one major rule of my faith and that’s “thou shall not judge”. All I care about is if that person, rather boy or girl, is treating you with respect and love other than that I don’t care who you date.  I SUPPORT GAY MARRIAGE!!!! I don’t understand what the problem is. I am working on a degree in Psychology, and I can tell you there is no real proof that a child growing up in a household with Same Sex parents are going to be gay or have terrible psychological issues. If they found someone they want to be with for the rest of their lives, and want to marry them. LET THEM!!!!! The world will not end and society will keep going on.

                There are 3 gay men that are my world. I call them my gay husbands. The nickname came about because they all have qualities I look for in my husband, and if they were straight I would totally date them. They are ranked by who came into my life first. I start backwards first.  Husband #3 I call him white chocolate. He is the newest member of the group. I met him through husband #1 because that’s his boyfriend. He is totally sweet and kind guy. The first time we met was at my birthday party last year. I know we have many more years of memories to come, so stay tune for that. #2 husband is my down for whatever husband. He’s also the only husband that watches Rupaul’s Drag Race with me. We talk about the makeup and dresses and the runway of all the queens. He is also the photographer of this family. He also keeps me up on all the underground artists and music. Now we reach the top dog of the group. Husband #1 is my protective and most professional out of all 3. We met 7 years ago and ever since we been together. All this boyfriends have to meet a standard that I have for him (I got to make sure he is a good man that’s all) and the same goes for my boyfriends have to meet his standards. He had opened my eyes to so much. He helps me with my budget, school, resumes, men/dating/ fashion, and my new project losing weight. He always keeps me on track to reaching my goals just like the other husbands. I don’t know where I would be without him in my life. He spoils me almost like a real husband, and our 7th anniversary is coming up October 17.  Yes, we celebrate an anniversary. I love all my husbands equally. One day I will be at their weddings.  I just wanted to tell all the young or old people out there that are scared to come out to friends/family. It’s OK to be who you are completely. If they truly love you then they will accept you for who you are, don’t for one second think that someone who say they love you truly do because if they are trying to get you to chance who you are, or make you feel ashamed of who you are then they don’t truly love you. I LOVE YOU ALL!!! KEEP YOUR HEAD UP!!  Remember YOU, YES YOU, YOU ARE PERFECT and were created by the most high and HE DID NOT MAKE NO MISTAKE WHEN HE CREATED YOU!!!!!!!!!  *kiss*