Personal rant

I just had to write these feelings out. It's a personal rant that I am posting just to show someone out there that is going through something like this that you are not alone.




I started this out not knowing what to say. This thought has been really have on my heart as of the past few months. I feel like this is a safe place for me to express these thoughts and emotions. I been in love with a man for 10 years of my life, but I always been the best friend. For 10 years, I just played my role as my heart bleed. Don't get it wrong, I had relationships, but my heart always wanted him. I tried and tried so many times to get over him and "let it go", but there was always something not allowing me to let go. Now I see that the writing is on the wall and he has a girlfriend, but that force will not let go. I miss my best friend, but this foolish pride will not allow me to reach out to him. I guess I don't want to seem like a pest or something. I guess I just got to get use to not talking to him, and it's going to be hard since I known him since I was 14.

New Year = NEW CHANGES

 Happy New Year Everybody!!!!!

As some of you can see, I changed up my blog background. I came up with the idea to change the background every month. It's important to shake things up every once in a while, right? This year I will be more open and getting back to what my blog originally was started to do. Promote Detroit in a positive light.

I want to thank every single person who have came to my blog, read my post, and left a comment. I promise to make this blog bigger and better.

New Age Bullying

On this topic, I have mix emotions, so I'm keep it short. The educated woman in me is all for ending all types of bullying, but the bullied little girl in me is screaming "fuck that!!! I was bullied and every adult in my life knew, but they counter act the bullying by raising me and gave me encouragements and self esteem."

I know bullying is wrong. In all honesty, it needs to end like yesterday. To every child/teen who are being bullied or have been bullied, don't let any one's negative words hurt you. Remember it's not your fault, the problem do not live in you it lives in the other person. Trust me, just follow your dreams and keep doing what puts a smile on your face, and when you are on the top you see how a rough sand paper can only polish a diamond, but it can not hurt it. I have this question. What are you going to do to the parents of the bully? I see on the news the children that were doing the bullying being put in jail, but think where did they learn that? Look at the parents of the bully. They had to see the signs that their child had a bullying ways. I learn through some of my bullies that they learned it from their parents, older siblings, and other relatives. Now, I ask this, don't you believe that the parents of the bullies should be punished too?

Role Model Couple #2 President Barack Obama and First Lady Michelle Obama

The second couple on my list of role model couples is the first family. President Barack Obama and Michelle Obama. This is a couple that holds not just their family together, but the whole country. Talk about pressure!! Ladies, imagine having your husband be the leader of the free world, the most powerful man in the world. The wonderful thing about this couple is the fact they do not let the fact that they are the president and first lady go to their head. They are down to earth, and they are not afraid to speak of their past or where they came from. During their first term in the White House, they both have came out and said they struggle with student loan debt until they join the White House.  To me as a college student that means a lot to me to know that my president understands the struggles of  daily life of students trying to better their future through education. 

President Obama makes to point in hiding the love and respect he has for his wife and our first lady. There have many times the microphone picked up him making jokes about his wife or that he is "afraid of her" with loving joking undertones. They show young people how to handle a relationship with class and grace. I know a lot people may not agree with what I am about to say, but it's my opinion, but they are the black or African American people image of a true, loving, and positive relationship and couple. Some may say they are the black camlot. 

I could go on and on about this couple, but why flood you with my opinion? Tell me in the comments how you feel about the First couple/family.

Respect=Love

Ms. Tina Webster's post title Another love really got me to thinking, looking around me at my surroundings, and thinking some more. Here's the link to her blog post so you can read it as well.
http://myteencity.blogspot.com/2013/11/another-love.html

     After reading Ms. Webster's post, I really start to think about what I REALLY want in a man rather than what I was taught I needed FROM a man. I never really sat down and thought about it. Today, I sat down in my room with a pen and notebook. I sat there and just image what kind of life I wanted then what kind of family I wanted for myself. I start to write down all the qualities I liked for in my future mate. The first thing I wrote down wasn't humbleness(which was the second one on my list), height, and not even money making abilities. The first thing I wrote down was respect. I didn't even pay it any attention until I was done with my list. I thought about the word Respect.

    I start to look around me and I see so many young women around me being disrespected. I see how so many women being treated like dogs just because they carry their self to a higher standard than the norm require of them. I see it everyday men holding doors for the "pretty" girls and slamming doors on girls that look "average". I had guys let doors hit me without a second thought. I realize I want a man that respect me. Respect me as a woman, lover, friend, and most of all as a human being.

     I say this to all my young women out there. You are more than your thighs. You are more than your breast. You are more than the clothes you wear. You should show people how to respect you by showing yourself respect. A diamond is made miles underneath the ground. It takes a man days, months, and even years to reach a point of being able to see the diamond before they can dig it out. Let a man work to see you in your glory. One day he be able to say he worked hard for his diamond.

    Fellas, treat ALL women with respect. She is someone's grandmother, aunt, sister, cousin, and daughter. Act how you would want someone to treat your mother, sister, grandmother, aunt, and even your cousin. If you see or hear one of your friends mistreating or disrespecting women, Speak up. One act of standing up, can change a life time of behaviors.

What do you think? What is your top 5 qualities you want your mate to have or must have?

Role Model Couples #1 Gomez&Morticia (ADDAMS FAMILY)

 

" Their house is a museum Where people come to see 'em They really are a scream The Addams Family."

I know Halloween is over, but this couple is more famous on Halloween than any other.This is favorite couple of all times, even thou they are a fictional couple. This couple showed me and people like me that true love never dies. They were different then the normal standards of what a couple do or say, but hey they loved each other and at the end of every show that point was shown. Morticia will always be tending to her "deathly" garden, yet Gomez will be playing so wild game of chess with Thing or playing golf. No matter what Gomez could not keep his hands of Morticia. Not because she was wearing the latest fashion, or her make up was on point, and not because she had a "banging" body. It was because she was his, and because she said something in French. When ever she said something in French he go mad with passion.

They actually showed me and my generation that when you truly love someone with all your heart and from the bottom of your soul that love will never die. Also, no matter how hard you try to fight it, you can never over come it. They show tolerance for each other and everyone no matter what or where the person may be. They didn't care if they were rich or poor(which is a topic in one of the Addams family movie). Long as they had each other they would make it. Morticia was a true ride or die chick. Ladies, let's be real. I don't know many that would put up with my husband swing from vines in the house and shooting his self out of a cannon on the daily bases. 

Like a true couple they complete each other. Gomez was the carefree and wild one, while Morticia was the senseable one and was the calm when everything would go crazy. I tell me your memories of this spooky couple. I can go on and on about this couple Gomez and Morticia, but why spoil it for you..go check them out and see why.."They're creepy and they're kooky,Mysterious and spooky,They're all together ooky,"  

First Love

What is love? Love can be anything some will say. Others may say its anything good in your life. I notice the one sure answer to that question is there is no sure answer. I know the answer for me. To love for me, is to love unconditionally. That's what I do. I love unconditionally. I have a story of that.

Its my freshman year of high school. I was not popular but I had my friends and classmates I was cool with. I met this guy through one of my best friends. They went to middle school together. He had the biggest crush on my my best friend, and I had the biggest crush on him. Due to that, I never told a soul. My best friend knew with out me saying a word, and she tell me all the time to go for it, but I never did. As the years went on the guy became my best friend. We was your topical best friends, well at least to me. One day senior year he told me he had a girlfriend. I had a boyfriend, but I was so hurt that he had a girlfriend that I didn't talk to him for 2 months. How I did that when we went to the same high school, I do not know, but I did it. I start to text his girlfriend from his phone a few times and one day he let me talk to her on the phone. I never forget that moment as long as I live. I told her that I loved him and few other things. I SAID THIS IN THE MIDDLE OF THE HALLWAY WITH OUR CLASSMATES LISTENING ALONG WITH HIM. I couldn't believe I said that. I been friends with him for many years now, and I still love him. Even thou we never dated or be came a couple, I still love him as a wife loves her husband. I finally told him one day over the phone and he said he never knew I felt that way(I don't buy that at all). We still friends and my love still grows. What can I say? I'm the type of person once I love you that's it unless you betray me unlike no other. We both date and meet new people, like we should since we both single, but I just cant stop loving him. I play my role as best friend never letting the two cross, but no matter what I do I can stop the love. Who knows what the future holds, he may love back, he maybe my soulmate, or one day I just stop loving him. Who knows but after 10 years of loving someone I don't think it happen over night. Tell me, who was your first love and do you still love him/her?

Are Ladies the new "MAN" now?

Everyone who knows me know that I am a very simple girl. The most simple things can bring a smile to my face and joy in my heart. With that being said, its also known that I dream big and go for those said dreams. I work hard to make my dreams come true, and help as many people as I can along the way. Due to this "go getta" attitude I have, a love life is hard to have.

I notice every guy I date complain that I don't have time for them. This is funny to me because I tell them all at the beginning all the things I do and want to achieve in life. Now, they are acting like little babies. Don't get it wrong, I love that a guy wants to be with me, but when it gets to the point it seems like you just free all the time because you always call or texting me. That's a big problem. I remembered a time when girls use to have to beg for a guy to spend time with them, now it's the other way around.

I don't know what it is. It seems like guys in my generation(i mean most guys not all) have no dreams, goals, and future plans. Once they come around a woman with goals, she is doing everything she can to make those dreams come true... all of a sudden she "stuck up" or "playing games" what's up with that? Don't you guys want that in a woman? I'm just saying. A woman that's strong enough to stand on her own beside you, strong enough to "pick up the tab" some times, and woman that can be your lover, friend, and most of all your support system. Now, when I say support system, I mean someone who helps you up when life kicks you down, some one who keeps you on the track to YOUR dream and not the dream you think that would impress her, and someone to just keep you motives you to go father than your current normal.

I just don't get it. I'm not saying that guys don't have the same issues with us ladies because they do. I'm speaking from what I see. Ladies and Gentlemen, I want to hear from you. Leave your comments and thoughts on this topic. Fellas tell me what you are looking for in a partner and same thing goes to you too ladies.

WHAT GROUP DO YOU BELONG TO??

Am I the only one who wonders why we are friends with certain people and not others? I notice today that the world is set up like the fictional high schools in the 90's movies I use to watch. Even in college, jocks sit and hang out with jocks and the list goes on. Myself, I do not fit any one special group. I like to do my own thing. I even notice teachers would treat you different if you fit in a certain group or not. I always find this to funny.  I Never knew that belonging to certain groups and stereotypes was a big deal in this country or world.

I am not the "normal" girl. I like wrestling and cartoons. I can also make a sailor blush with the way I talk. I see how I don't get the same respect from my male counterparts as my more "feminine" friends. I think that is crazy. Just because I don't wear tight clothes, high heels, go clubbing every night, and twerk on every guy I see don't make me any less than a woman. Treat us all the same!!!!!!!!! I learn to do things on my own because over the years guys showed me that because I am the " home girl" or their buddy I don't get the helping hand from them. I learn to open my own doors, cut my own grass, figure out whats wrong with my car, and to protect myself when I walk late at night.

Fellas, if you see a woman is walking behind you, no matter how she is dress or looks hold the door for her. Let her feel like a woman for just a mere second, since the rest of the world wont let her have that respect. I have male friend that hates to see me open a door. Like I told him, no man ever do it for me so I just learn to do it for myself. This ties to my post from yesterday, its all about self worth. I guess you can I lost a lot of it over the years, and I am finally gaining it back.

All and All today was a good day. Just remember if you having a bad day, change your thoughts and your day will change. In other words, think of good things and good things will come to you. REACH FOR THE SKY THEN ONCE YOU REACH IT...MOVE ON TO THE STARS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!